An excerpt from Cheryl Richardson’s current book, The Art Of Extreme Self Care, gives you exact phrases you can tell your friends and associates when you choose to enforce your boundaries by saying “no”. One that I adopted in my late 30’s and is authentic for me to say is, “Not this time, but remember me for another time.” For me, that means, I honestly can’t help you this time because I am being true to myself and my family right now, but my schedule may be different in the future and I may be able to help and want to help later on. Isnt this a good one for all of us moms to use. Especially as a mom, we want to help and be there for everyone… We all need to learn to set boundaries and keep them. It is for our own health and well being that we do.
This year may mean doing just one thing consistently and mastering it. Saying “no” and getting used to disappointing others may just be what you need to master now in order to move onto bigger tasks next year. I chose to start saying “no” to associates first. I was practiced on people who would not always be in my life. This gave me the courage to practice on my friends by telling them “no” that I wouldn’t do something that I really did not want to do. After several months, I was able to enforce my boundaries with my mother-in-law and my husband and I felt so much better, almost like a weight had been lifted… No, not as if, A WEIGHT WAS LIFTED! I can now say NO!
I was grateful I learned this because I taught people to respect me instead of teaching them to take advantage of me. It built my self confidence and it helped me to ask myself, “Why am I agreeing to do this? Is it so someone else will like my skills or is it because this task will bring me joy by serving others or because it will avoid a fight with my mother-on-law?” I learned that I was not afraid of situations where someone may potentially get upset with me, I was afraid I wouldn’t enforce my boundaries in those situations.
Enforcing boundaries is an important part of progressing through life. We can only master one goal line by line and precept upon precept. Let’s commit today so we have the self confidence to move onto other goals. If we don’t start today, we will be in this same situation next year. We will still have the disease to please next year instead of enjoying being our authentic selves.
Essential oil blends make this process so much easier. Put 2-3 drops of Release over the bottom right rib where the liver is located to help dispel old attitudes and barriers. Then choose an oil blend from the list below by the way the name of the oil sounds to you. For example, if when you read over this whole list, and Magnify Your Purpose stands out to you and almost seems like it’s telling you “pick me”, then place a drop of that oil on your chest over your heart and another drop on your temples. Smell the bottle deeply. Do this again throughout the day as you feel that the oil is wearing off. You’ll know that it is wearing off because your body shifts from a higher frequency which makes you feel good to a lower frequency which makes you feel run down and bummed again.
All of these oils listed can help you in maintaining your goals in life…
Common Sense #3091
Dream Catcher #3330
Highest Potential #3373
Live With Passion #3392
Magnify Your Purpose #3377
Sacred Mountain #3414
Three Wise Men #3426
White Angelica #3432
You can contact me anytime.. I would love to help you on your journey!!!
Please pray for the guidance so you know what you need to do!!